Sooooo big! March 15, 2010
“Sooooo big!” I remember saying that to my girls when they were old enough to hold out their chubby little arms with toothless grins from ear to ear with absolute sheer delight. I also remember saying things like, “What a big girl you are!” when they would clean up a toy all by themselves, or use a spoon instead of their fingers while eating Cheerios in strawberry yogurt for breakfast. *Sigh…*
Now I look at our oldest, Kaitlyn, who has just written her first song on the guitar and is going to Detroit, Michigan in August with her youth group for a drama competition. Uh, yeah I’m going with her!!! (That was for those of you saying…’Is she nuts? Sending her 12-year-old off on a plane to Michigan with her youth group?’)
I watch her with her friends and think to myself, how did she get so big, so fast? She is so beautiful, talented and a genuinely nice person. I am proud of her choice of friends, excited about the path in life she is choosing, and I love the relationship that she and I have.
Madelyn, our middle daughter is 10, and is probably the most compassionate person I have ever met…. almost to a fault.
She is always saying that when she is a mom someday, she is going to have to live next to me or her older sister because she doesn’t think she’ll be able to discipline her children…she says we’ll have to do it for her. I told her she’d get over that one. She is definitely my most dramatic, but has gotten to a beautiful place of balance with it. She is sweet, but has a crazy good sense of humor. Definitely makes for some interesting family dinners. She plays the drums, and preached her first sermon to the children’s church last week. I was so proud, especially when she asked me to ‘smell’ her sermon notes. I thought she was going nuts until I actually indulged her. She sprayed it with coconut lime body spray. (I told you she had gotten to a beautiful place of balance with her dramatic side!) Too funny.
Then there is McKenna. The Energizer Bunny of the family. We all use the treadmill so we can exercise and improve our health, while she uses it to exhaust all of her extra energy. She doesn’t stop moving, or talking, and since she lost her front tooth, it is quite entertaining. She is funny, always happy, and is always looking out for the other guy. We call her the family cheerleader. Constantly rooting for everyone. When she picks out her outfit for the day, being able to do a cart-wheel in it is definitely a prerequisite. She is also a peacemaker and we all absolutely love and enjoy who she is. She was my ‘surprise pregnancy’… I’m so glad God knew better!
So, yes, all of those times we look at our infants, or our toddlers and say “Soooo big!” We really do mean it. They are so big to us at that time. It’s exciting to watch them grow. Whether it’s seeing them roll over for the first time, take their first steps, or write their first song. It’s really important as moms that we have as few regrets as possible.
I guess that’s why I wanted to honor my kids today in this post. They are not perfect people, for sure. I could also sit here and go on about the things that bug me, but not today.
Today, I want to look at them and say, “Sooooo big!” and see their now long, slender arms stretched out wide, with big, beautiful, full smiles on their faces…because I still have some “soooo big” time left with them, and I am so thankful for that.
Top Ten for Moms! March 14, 2010
I’m taking a survey of the top ten things we as moms learn from our kids, so I need your help! There are plenty of things I have learned from my three girls, but I want to know about you. Go to ‘leave a comment’ at the bottom of this post and fill me in! It’s a whole new way of ‘furthering our education’!
Mommy Magic!~Re-post! March 12, 2010
It’s retro week here on A Spoonful of Sugar! Just kidding….anyway, this is another goody…thought you’d appreciate it. The hubby is going out this morning…8 ft. waves predicted! Go honey!
“Mom! Have you seen my other flip flop?” “Hey, Mom! I can’t find my jeans!” “Where’s the peanut butter? It’s not in there!” “Mommy, where’s my blankie?”…..If these questions seem familiar to you, and you can inevitably locate the items in question, then you have it. Yes, IT. Mommy Magic. My girls seem amazed when I can walk past them, go directly to the pantry, and find the item they have searched high and low for, in a matter of seconds. They say, “Wow! How do you do it!?” It even amazes me at times. I tell my girls that it’s a God thing. God gives all mommies Mommy Magic the moment our children are born. The magic is even extended for spouses ‘ lost items, because let’s face it ladies, our husbands, as great as they are, are not very good at finding things. That internal, instinctive guide which enables us to find those missing items, and allows us the right to say ‘I said so, that’s why’…because we can’t always explain why or how, we just KNOW. So, moms, stick to your guns. Don’t give in. That gnawing in your belly when your kids ask you to spend the night somewhere and you’re just not diggin’ it…stand firm…that same Mommy Magic that found their special blanket tucked under the couch cushion is the one that is telling you not to let them go. Trust your instincts. God in you is the best decision maker there is. Don’t feel guilty. There is no one else in this world that is going to have their best interest in mind more than you. It’s okay to say ‘no’ with a smile and really be okay with it because you are confident in your decision. So, get your magic on, moms….it’s time to find those teddy bears, those pacifiers, those MP3 players….and say no even when it’s hard and we want to please our kids. Someday, they will call you a hero because of it.
Raising Oatmeal Kids March 10, 2010
I decided to re-post this…It was my first real post ever! I have so many new readers, I wanted to share it…one of my faves! AND….I’m out of town this week so my hubby can surf. Harder to blog while not at home in my comfy little computer corner! Enjoy!
Oatmeal…healthy, hearty and yummy with a touch of cinnamon and brown sugar…maybe a splash of maple syrup, mm-mm! A little sweetness and a little spice go a long way. Preparing it is a process. Not a difficult one, but too much or too little of one ingredient could ruin the whole bowl. What is your daily process as a mom? Do you ever feel like all you are doing is telling your kids…pick up this, do that, brush your teeth, stop yelling, quiet down, no running in the house, be nice, no tattling…etc..etc…? I am the kind of parent that doesn’t like to let bad behavior just slip by. That can be good, and it can be not-so-good. Being an ‘on-top-of-things’ kind of parent is necessary at times, but there is a limit. Not only so you don’t go into cardiac arrest and leave your kids without a mom, but we can easily close their spirit and they won’t listen to a word we have to say anyway. You know, the Charlie Brown adult voice…’wo wo waaa wa waa’ is all they will hear. Evaluate your kids…each of them separately.
What is one thing that you really want them to change? C’mon, be honest…there is something about each of our kids we aren’t thrilled with. What are they missing? The sweet? The spice? The main ingredient?! If the offense of the moment cannot be directly tied to that one thing…think twice. Is it going to make a difference? The bowl we put the oatmeal in doesn’t make it taste any better; it just makes it look different. I’m not saying we let everything else slide, but we need to think before we nag. It’ll make for a much nicer day…for us and for them! Concentrate on character issues, not pet peeves. God gave our children their personalities, and it is our job as moms to help shape their character. I say to my kids…who do you want to be to others? Whether we like it or not, people are going to label us. What’s it gonna be? Are you going to be ‘the tattletale’? The ‘nose picker’? The ‘know-it-all’? The one who is so sweet that he or she gets walked on or bullied? Help them be the best, balanced ‘them’ they can be. Help them be the kid that everyone wants as their friend. You know the kind of person that ‘makes friends and influences people’.
15-20 years from now when your kid is our doctor, or our nurse, or our grandkids’ teachers, we will be careful to thank you, Mom, or Dad! Let’s raise up an oatmeal generation…healthy, hearty, with a sprinkling of sweet, and a touch of spice. They are worth it!
Memory Makers… March 8, 2010
I am so thankful to God, and my husband that they have allowed and afforded me to be a stay-at-home home-school mom for the past 12 years. We’ve sacrificed, yes, done without extravagant vacations, yes, but without an ounce of regret.
God has always provided, and my children want for nothing. It’s amazing to me how we’ve lived on one salary for so long, and we have no debt. Awesome. I guess that is one of the many reasons I take my job so seriously. When people ask me if I work, my response is, “Not outside the home,” because I certainly work my tuchus off inside the home! Can I get an ‘amen’?
One of the things that I have always tried to do as a mom is to be a memory maker. You know, do special little things that my kids will remember forever. Unfortunately, they will have some not so fond memories, so I try to outweigh them with good ones. I asked my girls to tell me some of the things that I do for them that means the most to them.
These are some of the responses I got:
“I used to love it when you put our baby blankies in the dryer so they could be warm for bedtime, and you put towels in the dryer for after our bath when were so cold.”
“I love that you make special cakes for my birthday.”
“You make heart-shaped muffins for breakfast.”
“You take us on trips as a surprise to go see snow!”
“Letting us have friends sleep over and making chocolate chip pancakes with whipped cream.”
“Taking us on surprise field trips for school!”
“Letting us have ‘Fun-Genda’ Night!”
I’m certainly not writing this post to give myself heirs, or to boast…that is not my intention for sure. I am far from a perfect mom. I mess up quite often. That’s when I chalk it up and say, ‘oh well, they’ll need something to tell their therapist someday!’
So, I just love that these little things made positive memories for my girls. When they are mommies someday, doing laundry, and pull a warm towel out of the dryer, I hope they remember the warm towel that wrapped up their tiny little bodies after a bath, and when they take their kids sledding, they will remember the spontaneous trip we took so they could see snow for the first time.
I have memories of my mom letting me put make-up on her, and putting a gazillion bows in her hair. These are the memories that keep us going. I am so thankful to God that I have the world’s best husband, and he makes it possible for me to give these experiences to them.