A Spoonful of Sugar

Making every day life as a mom just a little bit sweeter.

Scooby Snack~Tip of the Day! Mommy Feet Treat! April 2, 2010

Filed under: 1 — Janine Chance @ 4:00 am

I love to get pedicures…I’ve had two in the last seven years. Ok, so I don’t get them very often, but I do love them! I discovered a total treat for the feet today for only 3 bucks ! Thank you Wally World! So soft, so comfy, and no guilt involved! Treat yourself, mom!  I bought them and said, “Happy Easter, me.”

I’m one happy bunny.

Photo by airplusfootcare.com

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Oh no, I’m not afraid! April 1, 2010

Filed under: 1 — Janine Chance @ 4:00 am

As parents we always want our kids have the utmost respect for us. Our desire is God’s best for them, so we base our decisions on that….what’s best for them. Every discipline we administer, every look we give, every loving touch is hopefully getting them closer to the best life possible. But, there is one thing that I think we fail to do at times as parents.

Say “I’m sorry.”

I don’t mean to apologize for appropriate disciplinary actions, or apologize for being the mom. I’m talking about those days where it’s ‘not about them’. The days, or moments we have as parents where we just plain ole mess up! Yell out of anger, or discipline out of frustration.

I have had moments like these, and it’s real simple. It goes like this….(obviously you can modify this any way you see fit for your situation…age, etc. has to be considered, of course!)

“Mommy needs to apologize to you. I was very frustrated and angry when you did what you did. Your behavior was inappropriate, but my anger is not justified, and for that I am sorry. I am sorry I was ugly to you, and I yelled. I shouldn’t have acted that way. Will you forgive me?”

It really is not as hard as you think. It does not make you look weak, or silly, or show cause for a lack of respect. It also doesn’t mean we don’t administer the discipline. The discipline still stands, but we need to show our kids that we are not perfect and that we realize it, are willing to admit it, and change. We will never raise children who are willing to allow God to change them, or admit to a wrong if we are not the first to set the example.

I have had plenty of home-school days the past 6 years with my girls when I was just over it. In a bad mood, had no patience, however you want to paint the ugly picture. I have gotten frustrated over the littlest thing…but, and here’s the big BUT…I breathe, count to 5, and simply say…”Ok, I need to apologize. This anger is so not about you guys. I’m having a rough mom day, so just detach from it. It’s not about you. Forgive me?” Inevitably, my kids say, ‘Yeah, sure Mom…” and end up loving on me, and doing their best to help me to have a better day. COMMUNICATION!!! I really think it’s a lost art, but I am determined to bring it back in style.

I do not apologize for justified parental behavior, but I do apologize for inappropriate or extreme emotional decisions or outbursts. If you never experience these emotional outbursts, then when I grow up, I want to be just like you. If you are like the rest of us normal moms, take heed…Our kids are going to realize one day that we are not perfect. Let’s clue them in before they find out for themselves!

 

Tick Tock, Supermom! Re-post …enjoy! March 24, 2010

Filed under: 1 — Janine Chance @ 4:00 am

Remember that old 80’s song, ‘Time won’t give me time…’? (I know, you’re welcome, you’ll be singing it all day now!) Well, it is so true. Time certainly does not multiply and produce more. So, what do we do about that? Get up earlier? Go to bed later? I have a better idea.

Make the most of the time you do have. I know, quite a concept. Rocket science? No, not really, but I think we need to be reminded of it every so often.

Here’s another idea… involve your kids! My girls have had chores since the day they could walk! Mean mom? No. Were they scrubbing floors at 2 1/2? Not quite. But they were picking up their own toys that they took out and played with, and putting their sippee cups in the sink…good habit forming chores. It’s part of their training, and their spouses will thank you someday for it!

My point is this…Yes, we have obligations, yes, we have things that have to get done, but ladies, it’s time to take the cape off! It’s time to let go of that feeling we get as moms and wives that if we don’t do it ALL, EVERYDAY, we will somehow let our families down. I have felt that way plenty in my lifetime and it hasn’t gotten me any more time on the clock.

Remember…it WILL get done. It is okay to put the laundry aside and read a book to your kids, or play a round of UNO, or take a little time for yourself. What good is time if there’s nothing quality about it? Trust me, you will go back to that daunting pile of socks…but you can fold them much easier without having a cape in the way!

So, enjoy your day today. Get your stuff done, enjoy your kids. Even take 20 minutes for yourself to do your nails, pluck your eyebrows…whatever floats your boat…and hang up the cape! Save it for the day you’re really gonna need it!

 

Scooby Snack~Tip of the Day! January 30, 2010

Filed under: 1 — Janine Chance @ 9:14 am

Having a rainy, lazy day?  Get out the crayons!  Bust out the construction paper!  Who can you bless today?  Have them make pictures and cards for people who are sick, or might need an encouraging word. Can’t think of anyone?  Do it for the nursing home down the street.  Teach your kids to serve.  Put the ‘it’s not about you’ post into action!  What can we do to serve someone else today?  When they get to hand those beautiful, sparkly cards out, you’ll wonder who is really receiving the blessing here!

 

What we won’t do for our kids….. January 27, 2010

Filed under: 1,Juicy Little Mommy Tidbits — Janine Chance @ 6:49 pm

Do tell! What are some of the not-so-fun things you’ve had to do as a mom? Comment on this blog, and let me in on some of your selfless mommy moments. This could be good. = )

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